How to Move On, Part 1

Relationships come and go, it’s life. However, most of us are much worse in ending a relationship than beginning a new one. In fact, not ending a relationship well is often the reason why starting a new one is difficult.

We meet a person, fall in love, and somehow things don’t work, and we part. Now, that person is gone, but anger, sadness, regret, and all other emotions are still inside you, trapping you in the past. When you’re stuck in the past this much, you cannot move on to the future. Now, “how can I shed off the past and move on to the future?“, you may ask.

Being locked up in the emotions are actually closely related to your being tied to the karma from your past relationship.

The foremost task of shedding off the past relationship and moving on to the future is to be free from the emotions from the experiences of that relationship. The relationship is now over, but those emotions, anger, sadness, happiness, and etc., are still inside you. They give you pain and pleasure. You constantly try to suppress the pain part, because you don’t like to feel it. You constantly try to recall happy moments from that relationship, because they give you pleasure. Those emotions from the past are driving you to live the past experiences again and again inside your head. In this situation, you may say you want to move on, but you are actually not wanting to move on. For you to be able to move on and to surface to the present life, you need to let go of those emotions from the past. You need to release them.

Do you remember something like this? You really liked a person. But then, somehow your interest faded away. Then, even when you were in front of that person, you were not feeling anything much. You were neutral. You found that your peace of mind was not disturbed at all by the presence of that person. Sure, you could recall how you felt in the past about that person and temporarily feel those emotions when you concentrated, but those memories from the past were now just like dim scenes of a movie being played inside your head. They didn’t have the power to grab you and drive you to behave in a certain way… This is the state of having moved on.

Please stay tuned for my next newsletters for my four steps of moving on that you can apply to your life right after having read them.

Best wishes,
Rick

PS. If you have any questions, please send me an e-mail to rick@spiritualloveadvice.com. I’ll answer those questions in my newsletters as much as I can.

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