How to Move On, Part 2

In the previous newsletter, I said that the most important thing for moving on from a relationship is to be free from the emotions that were built up in that past relationship. Everything else is secondary to this. This is also about living your life at the present moment.

Some of you may ask, “but I don’t want to lose those emotions! I cherish them, I like them, I don’t know how to live without them, although many of them give me pain. I want even that pain part also, that’s a part of the whole precious experiences of that relationship”. Indeed, some people choose this path, then live in the past. Without having a new relationship, they can be content just with recalling the past, feeling the emotions from the past, living inside their head, for a long time. However, if you ask them, usually what you find is that they have an undercurrent of sadness deep inside.

If you want to remove this undercurrent of sadness after a breakup, and if you want to live your life fully with the sense of bliss and happiness, then follow the four steps described below, which will also be explained in detail in the next newsletters.

First, Remove everything that can remind you of the person of the past relationship. If seeing that person, seeing an object of a shared memory, or even seeing a friend of that person can bring you back to the past, then you need to stop contacting them. At least until you have completely moved on. Often, it’s not possible to do this. Do your best to reduce this kind of contact as much as possible.

Secondly, right after a breakup, it is natural that you feel enormous pain, sadness, anger, and etc. in this phase, it is very important that you release those emotions by expressing them. You cry, you yell, you punch, you just do whatever you can do to express those emotions, without hurting yourself. This is the phase of grieving over the past relationship.

Thirdly, when this initial phase of emotional flush has finished, now is the time for you to take out each emotion still residing inside you related to your past relationship, and release it. Any method that works for you is fine. There are two methods that I recommend for this process, which are Emotional Freedom Technique and The Sedona Method.

Lastly, you need to have your own life.

That’s it. If you follow these steps, you can move on from any relationship. The matter is how long it will take for you, but you can move on from ANY relationship.

I will explain each step in detail in the next newsletters, so please stay tuned. Until then, follow this simple rule of happiness – if you feel good after having done something, then do it again, and if you feel bad after having done something, then don’t do it again. See for yourself how this simple rule can change your life.

Best wishes,
Rick

PS. If you have any questions, please send me an e-mail to rick@spiritualloveadvice.com. I’ll answer those questions in my newsletters as much as I can.

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